How to Find a Spouse

From First Things, an article by Betsy VanDenBerghe on what is truly important when looking for a spouse. She lists the five factors that John Van Epp (author of How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk), says are essential to consider in a relationship:

• compatibility in familial, religious, and financial values and priorities,
• communication skills like self-disclosure, mutual assertiveness, and ability to apologize,
• behavior in other relationships,
• patterns of family background, and
• a healthy conscience (neither underactive nor overactive).